mandag den 3. september 2012

Et besøg hos Dr. Phil (2)

. .. fra vi havde samlet C op, overtog hun bilen... jeg har det stadig skidt med at køre i reelle byer.
Det gik fint, omend meget, meget langsomt, mod LA - trafikken bliver rigtigt slem henad 6.45..

Det lykkedes os dog at være i parkeringshuset foran studiet kl 7.45. Vi gik ind. De spurgte hvilken gruppe vi hørte til, jeg anede ikke hvad jeg skulle svare... men så spurgte de 'hører I til moms club' og smirkede lidt.. vi kom ind nemt, og kun de andre udlændinge var ankommet. Lidt senere kom amerikanerene.

Først kom vi ind i det blå rum. Blå gardiner, ikke særlig stort. Der var mange mennesker med uniform og mikrofoner allevegne.

Efter et stykke tid blev vi gennet videre til selve settet..

Det var præcist som man ser i TV - vildt! Vi havde fået at vide at vi skulle have varmt tøj på, fordi der er meget koldt på settet (og det er Californien, right).. Men Claus og jeg mødte jo hinanden i en teatergruppe hehe, og vi ved at sådanne teaterlamper, de varmer helt ekstremt. Derfor har de valgt at have sindssyg AC på i studiet. Jeg havde således trøje, habitjakke, bukser og bluse på.. Men andre dukkede op i sommerkjoler, fordi de ikke havde fået den rette info..

Først del var om børnemisbrug (måske derfor, de havde inviteret en mom's club?)
Her så man bl.a. en kvinde, hvis datter var blevet misbrugt af stedfaderen fra hun var 8 til 11. Hun mente hun havde fortalt moderen det, men det mente moderen ikke. Så kørte den. Man fik ret ondt af moderen, som var pænt ynkelig 'men han passede på Jer, jeg havde et job'.. Det siger faktisk en del om det amerikanske arbejdsmarked. Mere om det en anden gang.... Det hårdeste, der blev sagt, var datteren 'du har ødelagt resten af mit liv. Jeg er ødelagt'. Dette er relativt normalt for mennesker, der har været udsat for overgreb (krig, seksuelle, mobning, psykiske overgreb - også følelsen af at man er mærket og ødelagt for livet) og her synes jeg faktisk rent personligt at Dr. Phil trådte i karakter - ret godt endda- da han sagde at det var det hårdeste, der var blevet sagt. Han understregede, at den unge kvinde ikke måtte bebrejde sig selv dette - hun var et barn, og var blevet svigtet. Moderen virkede mest fortørnet over at hun 'by proxy' var endt i et kriminalregister for sexualforbrydere. Helt ærligt - tag dig sammen - din datter skal kæmpe mod dette dagligt, fordi du ikke var opgaven voksen.. grr...

English edition -surely with errors due to google translate and me

.. after we picked C up, she took over the driving ... I still  have a problem driving in real cities.We went very very slowly towards LA - traffic is really bad from 645 and onwards. We managed, however, to be in the carpark in front of the studio at 7.45. We went inside. They asked the group to which we belonged, I had no idea what to say ... but then they asked 'are you of the Mom's club' and smirked .. we entered without probelms, and only the other foreigners had arrived. A little later the Americans arrivedFirst we came into the Blue Room. Blue curtains, not very large. There were people with uniforms and microphones everywhere.After a while we were herded on to the headset ..It was exactly like you see on TV , the set! We had been told that we should bring warm clothes, because it is very cold on the set (and this is California, right) .. But Claus and I met each other in a theater group hehe, and we know that such theater lights, the are warm - to the extreme. They have opted to have intensive AC on in the studio. I brought a sweater, suit jacket, pants and blouse .. But others women showed up in summer dresses because they had not been given the right info ..First part was about child abuse (perhaps why they had invited a mom's club?)Here then is partly a woman whose daughter had been abused by her stepfather since she was 8 to 11 She thought she had told her mother, but the mother firmly negated to have been told, and on that tragic story went! The mother whined 'but he took care of you, I had a job' .. It actually says a lot about the U.S. labor market. More on that another time .... The hardest part was,when the daughter stated 'you've ruined the rest of my life. I have been destroyed. " This is fairly normal for people who have been exposed to violence (war, sexual, harassment, psychological abuse - also the feeling that one is condemmed and ruined for life) and here I actually  Dr. Phil came in character - pretty good, too, when he said that it was the hardest statement that has been made. He stressed that the young woman could not blame herself - she was a child, and had been let down. The mother seemed most upset that she 'by proxy' ended up in a criminal record for sexual offenders. Honestly - pull yourself together - your daughter must fight against this daily because you were not up to the task ..

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